I think I'm either extremely jealous or my partner is mucking around on me. I try so hard not to be jealous or possessive but lately I have felt totally ignored bymymanof three years.
We used to do everything together but about three months ago he started stayingout late and giving me no reason apart from ''I was out with the boys and lost track of time''.
It's not washing after this weekend-he didn't come home Friday night and walked in the door late on Saturday morning with no excuse. Shouldn't I at least be offered an excuse or an explanation of what has happened? Then I might understand.
Also he has been leaving the room when he gets a text and won't tell me who it is from. I know what he would be saying if the shoe was on the other foot or he was walking in mine.
What should I do because I don't want to feel like this any more. I honestly believed he was the right man for me.
- Worried
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Dear Worried,
It wouldn't matter if he was seeing someone else or not, he is ''mucking you around''. There is a lack of respect and basic manners going on that you don't need to put up with.
You don't sound like an overly jealous person. When you expect someone to be home overnight it is common to be worried, then when they turn up okay but elusive it is common to be suspicious.
Don't let this behaviour continue or you will be setting a precedent for the rest of your relationship.
Tell him that his behaviour is making you feel terrible and you don't want to feel like this any longer.
If he wants this relationship he will change his behaviour, and you might have the rightmanfor you. If he won't be honest and respectful, then frankly you deserve better.
- Colleen
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