"What a different place this would be if the general [Cameron] and the chiefs had acknowledged their common humanity and perhaps sat down over kai and a pipe to talk about their differences and find a way to resolve them.
"It has taken us 150 years to repair what was supposed to be easy and quick. It has taken us 150 years to realise that we can build a strong community by working together and by having a vision for the future that is shared by us all ... our grief is surely the grief of what might have been."
The real legacy of the warriors who died would surely be the realisation that working together was one of the keys to unlocking a shared future.
The service featured the Last Post, the firing of volleys and laying of wreaths, including at the memorial to Rawiri Puhirake, the Ngai Te Rangi chief who led the battle and defeated the English forces.
Ngaitamarawaho kaumatua Morehu Ngatoko began the service with a mihi in which he said he had lived in Tauranga for a long time and it was the first time he had seen so many people gathered at the cemetery at the invitation of iwi to honour the people buried there.
"I grieve in my heart for us all."