Only 20 per cent of domestic violence is ever reported, she said.
"Women with money can cope more, they don't have less to lose but have other means of surviving. "Those are our women who don't understand domestic violence is not just a punch to the face or justifying his behaviour because he has had a stressful day at work.
"The wealthier or better off you are, the bigger the section, the more isolated the house and the less likely you will hear it [the abuse].
"A lot of women are going to be quietly terrorised in their home. It's not all the time, it's not every day. These men can be loving and kind and caring. But he can also be a monster just waiting for the next explosion.
"The next time your things are destroyed, the next time he punches the wall beside your head. [Times] where the money gets used and kids have to go without."
Celebrating their 35th birthday next month, Mrs Warren-Clark said she and her staff would love to be made redundant because domestic violence had ended.
"We have got so much better at intervening now, giving alternatives, but we hope that the children's programme will support those children [who have suffered through domestic violence] to make better decisions in the future."
One woman's story
You could see in Kylie's eyes, she would go into a different place when she remembered the years of abuse she suffered at the hands of her husband.
Kylie, not her real name, was married to him several years before the abuse started - gradually she was told she was worthless, the bullying began and she was controlled.
The mother-of-four said the abuse - emotional and psychological - happened so gradually she did not realise it was wrong.
"I was useless and a moocher.
I was his property and I had to do what I was told. I never grew up in a household like that. But he did, it was like he grew up in the 1950s, that sort of male chauvinistic mentality.
"I eventually had everything withheld from me. Everything was taken away. I had to ask for food, ask for gas, ask for anything. [I had] no control over anything."
The only thing Kylie could do for herself was look after her young children.
"I lost me. There were a lot of invisible wounds."
Kylie started calling the Tauranga Women's Refuge crisis line for advice.
"I would ask them 'Is this normal?' - they would give me advice and I would hang up and then I would take it in."
Over a one-year period she made three calls to the refuge.
A chat with a social worker at her children's school led to the young woman leaving her husband and staying in the refuge safe house for six weeks.
"It's only been in the last few months I have come right within myself. I just felt bad for the kids because I had taken them away from their father.
But they are a lot happier now too.
"They were pretty stressed out in the end - they didn't really have a voice to say what they were going through."
Kylie is enjoying getting back to how she used to be.
"I felt relief and I was safe when I first arrived [at the safe house]. I'd be in no better place, probably worse. Maybe it could have got physical."
