"To lose two 8-year-olds in a flash is inconceivably tragic.
"To survive for another 15 years was absolutely wonderful. We loved Polly so much and all miss her. She was, and still is, part of a very strong and rewarding family."
It was Polly Fairbrother, a caring and creative type with interests in artwork, music performances and photography, who inspired regular but loosely-knit Friday-lunch hour Under the Magnolia Tree gatherings outside St Paul's Church in Tennyson St, Napier.
It stemmed from a comment her father had made to Napier Pilot City Trust stalwart and social issues dynamo Pat Magill about meetings to deal with issues, big or small, private and public.
"Polly found a particular affinity with that tree," Magill said.
"So we started meeting there every Friday. It was about a year ago."
Her funeral is being held at Pukemokimoki Marae, Napier, the final service starting at 2pm on Thursday.