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Linda Hall: We must protect our elderly

By Linda Hall - Middle New Zealand
Hawkes Bay Today·
7 May, 2017 10:00 PM4 mins to read

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Linda Hall, Hawke's Bay Today columnist.

Linda Hall, Hawke's Bay Today columnist.

The most disturbing video I have ever seen came up on my Facebook feed last week.

It made me gasp and cover my mouth with my hand to stop myself from actually crying out loud.

The video started with an elderly lady sitting in the corner of a two-seater couch with her head down.

The door behind her opened and in walked a much younger woman, I would guess to be in her early 20s. As she walked past the woman she casually slapped her around the head. I didn't have the sound on.

She then lay down on the couch to watch TV and started pushing the woman with her feet. When the elderly woman dared to put her hand down and push her tormenter's foot away, the young person jumped up, stood over the elderly woman and was obviously yelling at her.

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Then she pushed her so hard the lady's head snapped back. She then grabbed a handful of her hair and shook her. It was terrible.

Obviously she was meant to be the elderly woman's carer. I don't know where the video was shot - it may well have been somewhere overseas - but the point is, our elderly are just as vulnerable as our little people and they need protecting.

Posting this video to social media will hopefully mean the disgusting person bashing and bullying an old lady will never get the chance to do it again.

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I was talking to someone about it and they made a valid point. They said people like that are usually those who have never had any power over anyone or anything in their lives. They suddenly find themselves "in charge of someone" and the power turns to violence.

The same thing goes for people who hurt children. Power and violence are a nasty combination.

This past week I have also seen the complete opposite of what happened on the video.

My mum had been unwell. Her doctor gave her the choice of a few days in hospital or respite care in a rest home. My sister-in-law, who was with her at the doctor's, chose the rest home.

What a fantastic choice it turned out to be. My mum was In Gracelands Rest Home for six days, one of which landed on her birthday. She got spoilt on her birthday, with bacon and eggs for breakfast and a small gift.

I was there every one of those six days, as were many other members of my family, and we all agreed that none of us had come across anything but kindness, smiles, laughter and excellent care.

My grandmother was actually the first resident in Gracelands when it opened. There was a ward named after her but it's all changed now.

Don't get me wrong, I'm certain she would have got the same care and attention in our hospital. Last time she was there she was well looked after.

Getting old is not much fun. My mum said to me not long ago: "don't get old Linda". However, the alternative is not much fun, either.

Hawke's Bay has several rest homes and as far as I know they all have excellent reputations.

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To some, the very idea of being in a rest home is terrifying. They see it as the final stop, I guess. We all have to face our mortality one day and planning for old age is vital.

I found two websites that had life-expectancy calculators on them. Statistics NZ said I could live to 89.7 years and Fisher Funds said 90.1, both assuming low death rates.

If that's the case I had better make sure I keep myself in good nick. There are no truer words than ''move it or lose it'' and I intend to keep moving as often as I can.

Right, I'm off to get Mr Neat out of the shed and off for a walk. I'm sure he'll be thrilled about that but one day, when he's really old, he'll thank me.

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