Often I visit men in prison and if they feel sorry for themselves I remind them of their partners having to do things alone. "Listen, you have a roof over your head, three square meals, and support. Think about your wife/partner battling on their own out there."
Passion, enthusiasm and wanting to make a mark has just been lying latent: the Flaxmere Boxing Academy has been that release for some who attend. The numbers are going through the roof. From cradle to the grave, no age limits, no gender preference - it is for all.
We have not created champions in the ring (yet), however we have created champions out of the ring.
Really, that is what this is all about - creating champions outside the ring - in the home, in the school, healing, restoring, resuscitating reaffirming; FBA upholds our mantra in Flaxmere: "Flaxmere Heal Thyself".
Our kaupapa includes whomever comes in the door, stopping what we are doing to welcome all. A highlight was judging letters written by the children participating in the FBA. The letters were to be on "why I should win the bike". Thanks to Paul McCardle, Bikes in Schools champion, who donated bikes for FBA to give to those deserving.
Local policeman Mike and I were given the task of judging. One boy wrote that he deserved the bike because his parents did not own a car and he had to walk two kilometres to school, rain, hail or shine.
Another (overweight) boy rubbed his stomach, grinned, and told us it was fairly obvious why he should win. The winning boy wrote that if he won the bike he would share it with his cousins because none had a bike.
Photos on the wall are all good-news stories about Flaxmere people - calendar heroes are up on the wall, local identities. We now have a registered coach/trainer, Meryl Percell.
The continued support from our community has been fantastic. Jack Pritchard, ex-Mongrel Mob, is one of our most loyal supporters, working on a Saturday, Sunday, giving of his time. This is what FBA is all about.
We have people come from Havelock North, Taradale, Napier, someone originally from Saudi Arabia, blending together as one - regardless of background, class, status. FBA seems to hit a with those who attend. And so in closing:
"Champions aren't made in gyms. Champions are made from something they have deep inside them - a desire, a dream, a vision. They have to have the skill, and the will. But the will must be stronger than the skill." Muhammad Ali
-Ana Apatu is chief executive of the U-Turn Trust, based at Te Aranga Marae in Flaxmere.