Ask the psychics: Readers questions answered

Q: Hope is something I am finding more difficult to hold onto. As with a previous reader, a daughter is mixed up with the wrong person/people and the constant lies mean we no longer know what is the truth. A friend of hers has recently visited us and told us of many things that we only suspected but now know is the truth. She is living in an abusive, volatile relationship and she is cut off from everyone related to her. He has her isolated and at times on the run. The difference now is she has a son, our grandson, 7 months old. We have only seen him a few times - once in ICU and then 3 weeks later, starved and half his birth weight. We got him well and educated her again. We saw him once more in March and he was looking well and happy. We were proud of her for getting him to that stage but have heard nothing since - only a nasty text message from her partner, telling us goodbye forever. We constantly live with the guilt as to whether or not we involve Child Protection. Will there ever be an end to this worry?Anonymous
A: You are guardian in this situation. Do what you feel looks after the welfare of your grandson first and your daughter. She has not made good decisions and needs to know you are there if she needs you. In the spirit world there are those who watch over us and your grandson is no exception. There are family members around your grandson who will alert you if you need to act. As long as you follow your gut instinct, you will know what you need to do.
Q: I desperately need to know if my partner is cheating on me or has ever cheated on me. I walked in on a conversation and to me this is what it sounds like. He has been out a few times and not come home till the next day, which makes me wonder where he is and what he's doing. I am making myself crazy with all this going round in my head. We were planning our next child just before all of this and I could be pregnant now. Am I, and will it be a girl as this is what I am hoping for?
A: Your partner is not behaving like a partner or a father. This is the bigger, long term problem as he is avoiding the responsibility involved in these roles. Check your expectations as to what kind of partner you need and let him know his behaviour is not acceptable. You will need to be brave but the long-term situation will get worse and cause you way more grief if it's not sorted now.
Q: When will my partner go to college? Should I continue with my study next year or is it better to delay this? What is causing my child to be so wakeful at night? Aquarian
A: If you delay your study you will lose interest and incentive. It would be extremely difficult to complete later as you will have found a new focus in the meantime. Different food choices will help the child sleep better. Trial and and error will help you find out what is causing the biggest problem. Additives and sugar levels are a good place to start.
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