Every time Ms Sturm's mother Kathy Sturm, who lives in Warkworth, visits Rotorua, she goes to her daughter's grave at Kauae Cemetery.
"I always say 'hi Nicks'. I talk to her as if she is alive. I say 'How have you been? How's your day?' I ask her 'Have you banged into any of your aunties, uncles and cousins up there?'," Mrs Sturm told The Daily Post.
Today, the family is gathering at Ms Sturm's grave for a memorial service and to celebrate her belated 30th birthday. She would have turned 30 last February.
Family members will let off balloons "to let off all our love to her", says Ms Sturm's 11-year-old niece Serena, who was 1 when her aunt died.
Ten years ago this week Ms Sturm was stabbed in the back by her flatmate Myra Ngaroma Rihari Young.
On November 28, 2003, Young, who was 22 at the time, was sentenced in the High Court at Rotorua to life imprisonment with a minimum non-parole period of 10 years.
Parole Board manager Alistair Spierling said Young came before the board on October 25 as legislation required the board to consider every offender serving more than two years' jail for parole after they had served their minimum non-parole period. The board declined parole and Young will come back before the board within 12 months. The board said Young initially had a worrying behaviour record in prison but this had improved considerably due to medication she had been taking for treatment for psychosis.
"She is now managing reasonably well," the decision stated.
Every year, Mrs Sturm puts a memorial notice in The Daily Post and regularly visits her daughter's grave.
Mrs Sturm, who was born and grew up in Rotorua, admitted it was difficult coming back because of what it represented.
The loss of the second youngest of her five children is still huge for Mrs Sturm.
"It's a horrible feeling, your kids going before you. Christmas times and birthdays are the hardest. Her birthday is four days after mine. I celebrate my birthday on her birthday. I never feel anything on my birthday."
What she missed most was just having her daughter around and her sense of humour.
Ms Sturm said her Christian faith and her six grandchildren had helped keep her going over the past 10 years.
After her daughter's death Mrs Sturm told The Daily Post she planned to train as a social worker to help people facing what she had been through. However, she decided against that, realising it would be too difficult. Every time someone is killed, it brings back what happened to her daughter.
Next week she will get counselling for the first time.
"I just didn't want to talk to anybody about it. I actually blocked it out. It took me two years before I actually started talking about it."
From the outset Mrs Sturm had said that she wanted to be at any parole board hearing for Young but said she was not notified about last month's hearing.
Mr Spierling said Mrs Sturm was not registered on the Victim Notification Register until after the hearing.
"I'm not sure what happened there, if there was any breakdown in communication," Mr Spierling said.
Mrs Sturm planned to be at any future parole board hearings and said she was angry at Young.
"The hardest thing will be facing her."
Mrs Sturm said the 10-year non-parole period was nothing.
"My daughter was 20 years old so she should have got 20 years."
And how will she feel when Young is eventually released?
"I don't really care what happens to her when she gets out."