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Kiwi woman Alice Brine's post about consent goes viral

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Alice Brine says the majority of responses to her Facebook post have been positive. Photo / Facebook

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A Kiwi comedian's humorous analogy about sexual consent has gone viral, with nearly 150,000 people and countless news sites applauding her witty stance.

Aucklander Alice Brine, 27, posted a tongue-in-cheek message to Facebook on Wednesday, likening rape to robbery.

In the post, Brine said she would "start going home with random very drunk guys and stealing all of their s***".

I'm gunna start going home with random very drunk guys and stealing all of their shit. Everything they own. It won't be...

Posted by Alice Brine on Tuesday, 26 July 2016

She continued: "It won't be my fault though... they were drunk. They should have known better. I'll get away with it 90% of the time but then when one brave man takes me to court over it, I'll argue that I wasn't sure if he meant it when he said 'no don't steal my Audi.' I just wasn't sure if he meant it.

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"I said 'Can I please steal your Gucci watch?' He said 'no' but I just wasn't sure if he meant it. He was drunk."

Brine then touches on the subject of blaming.

Imagining what she might say as a defence in the "robbery case", she writes: "He brought this on himself. You should have seen how he was dressed at the club, expensive shirts and shoes.

"What kind of message is he sending with that!? I thought he wanted me to come and steal all of his shit. He was asking for it.

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"When he said 'no' to me taking everything he owned I just didn't know if he meant it. 'No' isn't objective enough, it could mean anything."

To date, the post has garnered almost 150,000 "likes" and more than 60,000 shares, and has been saluted by Cosmopolitan UK and US-based GOOD Magazine.

Comedian @AliceBrine's flawless argument about victim blaming goes viral on Facebook https://t.co/qdfVPPklMw pic.twitter.com/rv0KWRl7JY

— Stylist Magazine (@StylistMagazine) July 29, 2016

Dozens of people have left comments on the post, with the majority applauding Brine for her remarks.

One commenter wrote: "This is brilliant, I'm so glad it came up on my feed."
Another added: "Don't know you but bloody well said!"

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While she said it was "really cool" that her post started going viral, Brine said it was also "really heartbreaking" that she had to "compare raping a woman to stealing a man's Audi for people to finally click".

However, one commenter disagreed with Brine's sentiments, writing in response: "Not really. You have simply made it easier to understand and get your point across by using the same legal argument that is used against victims.

Yes! Nailed it @AliceBrine - such a good analogy about consent. Not that it should be a difficult concept to grasp! https://t.co/RjxtDboKC5

— Wear your mask 😷 Meagan (@thisismeagank) July 28, 2016

Comedian Alice Brine's viral FB posts perfectly explains how dumb victim blaming is https://t.co/h7KQz20d5p pic.twitter.com/ZjuyzWtWCm

— Mic (@mic) July 28, 2016

"Many men support you, don't forget that the good guys are still out there."

One female reader thanked Brine for the post but took time to highlight the seriousness of the topic.

She wrote: "This is good. But a mans Audi will never compare to ownership of your own body as a woman.

"I'm sure he [doesn't] need therapy for the rest of his life and have fear of trusting anyone because of his stolen Audi. Good point though."

Brine has revealed that since she published her post she has received hundreds of "thank you" messages, including some from those who have been victims of rape and sexual assault.

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"My inbox is full of messages, it's been overwhelming. But it's really inspiring to hear people say, 'I'm so relieved you did this'," she told The Tab.

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