Just last month, a woman was in tears during a talk about settler, soldier and politician John Bryce. He was present at the 1868 Handley's woolshed incident where one of her ancestors, a child, was killed or injured by cavalry volunteers.
I read an account of how New Plymouth mayor Andrew Judd came to realise the depth of Maori grievance in his region. He talked about his limited contact with Maori before he became mayor, and his amazement when he read the history of contested Waitara land.
I was reminded of watching a similar transformation in a former Whanganui councillor, the late John Lithgow, after he became a member of the Pakaitore/Moutoa Gardens board.
Maori need to have a decent say in local and central government, and New Zealanders need to know more about colonial history - the Land Wars in particular.
A national day to remember them has been suggested. Perhaps it could be November 5, the day in 1881 when 1600 police and volunteers attacked the peaceful settlement of Parihaka.