Family getting life back on track

By Michele Hunter, Anita Moran -
NEW NORMAL: Matt Ruddell with Faith, 3, and Phoenix, 4, who head back to preschool on Monday.PHOTO/RUTH KEBER
NEW NORMAL: Matt Ruddell with Faith, 3, and Phoenix, 4, who head back to preschool on Monday.PHOTO/RUTH KEBER

Two children left without a mother, and with broken bones after an horrific highway smash, are about to return to preschool after weeks of fighting their way back to health.

Phoenix and Faith Ruddell's lives were devastated in a crash on State Highway 2, in which their mother Tracey O'Brien died. They spent weeks in Auckland's Starship Hospital recovering from their injuries, but life is getting back on track with both children out of plaster and due to go back to preschool this coming week.

Father Matt Ruddell told the Bay of Plenty Times Weekend their lives had changed massively since the crash on May 3, but things were getting back to a new sort of normal.

"I used to work 60 hours a week and now I am down to 24 hours a week and I am the primary caregiver for the kids," he said.

"It has taken a little bit of adjusting but we are getting there."

Faith, 3, broke her leg in the crash and had her cast taken off on Thursday. Phoenix, known by his family as Phee, had a broken pelvis, two broken femurs and a fractured arm which left him in casts covering about 75 per cent of his body.

His casts are also off but the 4-year-old is now learning how to walk again.

"He has had a couple of knocks," Mr Ruddell said.

"But he will get back up and try again. He is determined."

On Monday, the pair would be heading back to preschool , a move that Mr Ruddell said they were ready for.

"I've based my decision on them. We took them down to school and their reaction ... They just ran straight in and got stuck in," he said.

"Phee went straight in and Faith just got into the paints."

Mr Ruddell remains convinced the children knew their mother had died soon after the crash happened.

"I think they knew but just didn't understand ... We've had that conversation and it was really challenging but they are in a good space and will tell me how they feel and what's going on."

A memory box has been put together with newspaper clippings about the crash and sympathy cards and Mr Ruddell hoped the children would be able to go through it when they were ready to help them understand what happened.

Mr Ruddell and the children were living with his parents in The Lakes, and to help settle Phoenix and Faith in they were converting the garage into a playroom.

"It will be nice for them to have their own space."

He said the support the family had received was "phenomenal".

"We have just had a constant stream of messages and offers of support."

More than $11,000 had been raised for Faith and Phoenix via Givealittle and Mr Ruddell planned to use some of these funds towards taking the children on a trip.

"Most of it will be set aside for the kids but I'm thinking when everything is done and dusted and blown over, I'd like to take them to the snow for a week. Neither of them have been to the snow so it would be a cool little treat."

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