Her father, who cannot be identified for legal reasons, said his daughter and two female friends sleeping over had been threatened on July 31.
"My daughter and son are both sleeping in the lounge after that incident.
"We just want to move out of the village and into the Ruakaka general area."
Their decision to move comes after a 63-year-old woman decided to sell her home when the words "rape gang" were sprayed along the wooden fence of her garden a week ago.
She found the words frightening as she lived alone at the house she had owned for nearly two years
A spate of offensive graffiti on other properties has caused angst among residents in the area.
The father of the 16-year-old told the Northern Advocate the graffiti and his daughter's experience had to be linked.
"We had to draw a conclusion there was a connection.
"A lot of people in this area are very upset with the contents of the graffiti and the fact that it coincides with her incident rubs salt into our wounds," said the man.
He said parents had a lot to answer for by allowing their children to roam freely in the middle of the night.
"We knew this area quite well and knew it had issues ...
"We have informed real estate agents and others who are looking for a property for us. Our budget is extremely limited as we don't have the luxury of choice," he said.
The 14-year-old first appeared in the Youth Court at Whangarei on August 20 and was released on bail to reappear next week.
A family group conference between his family and that of the girl is expected to take place between court proceedings.
Police are taking the tagging seriously and are calling on the public to capture the offenders in the act by taking photos or video.
A teenager recently caught tagging a Ruakaka property is now being dealt with by the police Youth Aid section on a charge of wilful damage.