You can take charge of your own life

I must admit I chuckle to myself when anyone claims they have the ability to "motivate" others.
Translated, this means "I'm going to tell you what I think you need to do."
How does anyone else really know what we need?
Unless, of course, we have lost all ability to think for ourselves because of a brain misfunction or injury, or we have been surrounded all our lives by someone or others who have done all the thinking for us.
Do we really want to depend on others to make every decision for us?
When those of us who work in the "helping" field jump in with our assumptions of what we think others "need", things can go terribly wrong. Especially if there is a lack of awareness around when it's okay to to jump in and save and fix (this is usually when the basics in life such as physical safety, food, shelter are not being met) and when rescuing can be counter-productive.
It's an interesting dynamic to explore and, like most things, is not black and white.
While anyone who works to serve others does so with the best intentions, at the end of the day it is our individual belief and value systems that will decide what actions we take, no matter what anyone else tells us or helps us do.
So if we listen to the values of others and we like what we see and hear, and when we compare them to our own lives and we decide we want a bit of whatever they're on, we may need to start looking and challenging our beliefs.
Being inspired by others is great. Often it is enough for us to want to make better choices and take small steps to achieve that. I find it's always worthwhile to have a bit of a personal audit from time to time - to chew the fat with someone who can stay objective and not just tell me what they think I want to hear, or tell me what I should do (unless I ask of course), but rather facilitate a process or create a safe space that helps me unearth my own motivations.
I am lucky to be able to do this for others as well in the work that I do. How lucky am I that I get paid to be a part of others' lives and to foster, learn and grow through interactions with them?
How can anyone else claim to be the expert in our own lives? They can not.
Seek people who can provide a professional space to to have "real" conversations, where passions can be revealed.
Sometimes we need to just dump our stuff and that's okay in small doses, but at some point we need to grow up, take charge of our lives and look at what matters to us rather than what's wrong all the time.
The bridge to creating the sort of life we desire lies within us and only we can take the first step.
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