In my last contribution I wrote about motivation.
Motivation is fine if you've got it, but elusive and seemingly impossible to create if not.
I have found the best way to create an ideal climate for motivation to grow is to look at doing the stuff that matters to you the most,
the things that give real intrinsic value.
Now it could be argued that some of those things might not be that great for the health - which is why we need to be clear about the things that drive us that give us strength and peace and those things that drive us that feed our frustrations and fears.
Without being able to discern between the two puts us on the back foot from the start.
Our emotions are pivotal to this discernment and are there to show us, and are symptomatic of something we need.
No one but we can identify what our needs or our un-met needs are, but there are some therapists and coaches who are quite good at helping us unearth them. Once we can identify these needs and bring them up to the conscious then we have a better chance of understanding things a little bit more and adapting our life and goals to better align with what we need and want. Writing these down also really helps keep our intentions and thoughts alive as well - but again making sure that we are feeding our intention to increase doing the stuff that makes us feel good and doing less of the things that hurt our spirit. Again, it is only we who can decide what those actions are.
We are all addicted to feeling good - the only difference is the paths people choose to achieve it. For some of us it's constant quick fixes found from outside ourselves, and for others they seek something which is internally driven. Being internally driven versus externally gives us far more control of our lives and enables the chance of living a life which is more sustainably fulfilling and increases the choices of being able to self direct our own lives rather than being a victim of it.
Carla.
www.carlascoachingforhealth.com
