No results or no change? Then something different needs to happen. I don't consider myself a counsellor or a therapist but rather a quantum coach who, I hope, can support people bridge the gap with what often feels like the 'divided self'.
This means that we won't be talking about past hurts, as basic neuroscience has revealed how destructive this can be. The only good that comes of using the past as a 'touch point' is that it provides contrast to what we really want.
Constant reliving of the past in our mind can get in the way of creating the desired future if not self managed well.
My mahi is all about creating rather than reacting, and how to shine a light on designing a new story, based on one's inner desires and aspirations. Together we come up with a plan and process of what the mechanics of a new habit might look like.
Learning to drive is a great metaphor here and also acknowledging that not everybody wants to learn to drive, some people just like the idea of it. The step from the intention of driving to actually doing it requires an action, otherwise that pretty little number parked in the drive way isn't going anywhere fast. The action part is going to feel uncomfortable and unfamiliar if you've never driven before, but hopefully the goal will always exceed the discomfort.
