Letter to the Editor: Thursday October 27, 2016

Absolute freedom is destructive

I have read your comment on the Gable Tostee affair (NZ Herald online) with complete agreement. Thank you for your honesty.

I am so sad that you have been abused so savagely - presumably by those same people who are most willing to abuse themselves in the name of 'freedom'.

I would go further than you - women were provided a measure of protection in former generations by an institution called marriage.

A man would be expected to show his care for a woman by a period of courtship. He would take the time to appreciate her as a person, not just a nice shape.

He would show his commitment to her by putting all his assets into a place where she would be secure and which she could call 'home'.

I associate the complete sexual licence of so many people with the terrifying epidemic of loneliness.

It raises the question of potential links to our sky-high mental illness and suicide rates.

Sex no longer serves stable relationships of love - it has displaced them. We have abolished society - and then blame the government that the mental health service is cash-strapped.

I can understand people hating you. The predators of our age would see you as a challenge to their lifestyles. And it seems that idealogues would rather have absolute freedom that is destructive, rather than limits in which people thrive.

Keep up the good work.

GRAEME FINLAY
Auckland