He also found time to be a father to son Justyn, guitarist with rock band Elemeno P, of which he was a founding member.
Now he is about to become a full-time Anglican minister in Kerikeri, and if it seems a contradiction that a career soldier trained in the art of warfare is now a priest, Rev Pilbrow doesn't see it. The 'art' of warfare, he said, involved teaching leadership, organisation, problem-solving and logistics.
"They are skills that come in handy in a church setting, and when you've helped move 100 people to Namibia for peace-keeping duties, organising a church fete is not such a difficulty," he said.
His ties to Northland are extensive. His iwi is Ngāti Kahu through his mother; his Pākehā father is from the Bay of Plenty. He undertook his primary schooling at Rangiawhia, Whatuwhiwhi, followed by Taipā District High and Kaitaia College.
He thinks Pilbrow Hill, just north of the Brynderwyns, "might be named after a rellie."
As for his Anglican faith, that began early.
"I attended Sunday school every week until I began high school. The church and karakia were important parts of Māori rural life, and very few of our life milestones occurred without prayer, a service or celebration at our marae," he said.
Five years at Auckland's College of St John the Evangelist had also been a powerful influence on his life. He has a Bachelor of Social Services degree, and needs just four more papers to complete his Bachelor of Theology.
On September 10 he will be inducted as the new Priest-in-Charge at St James' Anglican Church in Kerikeri.