Lee Suckling is a Lifestyle columnist for the NZ Herald.
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'Queen bees' and breakdowns: How to survive a holiday with friends
Lee Suckling: Travelling together can bring you closer - or tear your friendship apart.
'How horrible would that be?': The simple way to understand the trans experience
Transphobia has been seen as something “far away” from our liberal shores but it's not.
Why men shouldn't fear the midlife crisis
How to know when you're having a midlife crisis and how to make a swift exit out of it.
The buzzword you need to stop using
Comment: Lee Suckling on the issue with using this popular word.
Opinion: Why this bizarre ettiquette rule should be scrapped
There are two types of people - shoes-off and shoes-on, writes Lee Suckling.
Opinion: Secret to understanding the southern Kiwi man
How to understand the Speights-drinking, Swannie-owning, stubbie-donning southern man.
Lee Suckling: What if men got their periods?
OPINION: If men menstruated you'd have All Blacks advertising products.
Opinion: The truth about wrinkles in 2023
Do we still have to choose between being 'anti-aging' and 'pro-aging'?
Opinion: Beware the park bench breakup
Turns out a park bench could signal the end of your relationship this summer.
Lee Suckling: Why representation on the screen isn't enough
'Minorities are not being invited into the corporate world as a collective.'
Opinion: It's time to change the way we talk about HIV
The stigma around HIV is outdated by several decades, writes Lee Suckling.
How to avoid the Sunday Scaries this weekend
This weekend, Kiwis should forget about meal prep for the week ahead and try this instead.
Opinion: The first job everyone should have
It's a thankless job - but here's why everyone should give it a go, writes Lee Suckling.
Opinion: The queer successes to celebrate in 2022
When it comes to progress for gay rights, it's not all bad news, writes Lee Suckling.
Can you really get a summer body in six weeks?
Why are we led to believe a summer body is achievable, asks Lee Suckling.
Opinion: Why is it so hard for Kiwis to make new friends?
Lee Suckling asks why Kiwis in their 30s struggle so much to form new friendships.
Opinion: Heartbreaking reality of owning a dog
After pouring his heart into raising his dog, Lee Suckling is facing the reality of time.
Opinion: Grunting, selfies and dropping weights - all the weird things men do in the gym
From mansplaining to the obnoxious gym selfie: the weird habits every man has in the gym.
Homophobic vitriol-spreading over monkeypox disease
Lee Suckling fears queer folk could be blamed for any widespread outbreaks.
The only greeting that won't offend anyone
Lee Suckling reveals how to avoid sounding sexist and 'like a bro' when you say 'hello'.
Lee Suckling: 'Why is it some men feel so hard done by?'
'The world would be a better place without chips on men's shoulders', writes Suckling.
Opinion: Sad reason women say sorry more than men
Lee Suckling finds out why women say sorry more than men, and how to stop it.
Opinion: Is 'queerbaiting' really such a bad thing?
Lee Suckling: Why do critics want to cancel people for playing with gender stereotypes?
Opinion: Why you should go to your high school reunion
Lee Suckling contemplates five reasons it's worth attending your high school reunion.
Opinion: The French rule all Kiwi companies should follow
If your colleague starts down this path, you might go down it too.
Anti-ageing and clear skin: The beauty standards that have to go
Lee Suckling shares why we should do away with these particular beauty products.
Opinion: Signs of a mental health setback and how to get through it
I've had a lot of guilt and shame about experiencing a setback, writes Lee Suckling.
Opinion: What's wrong with living in downtown Auckland
Auckland CBD is starting to feel like an old Scorsese movie, writes Lee Suckling.
Lee Suckling: Is Gen Z being over-sexualised?
OPINION: Trying to understand Gen Z's relationship with sexuality is wildly confusing.
Why the secret to happiness is embracing your inner introvert
Opinion: Something changed when I prioritised alone time.
And just like that… my friend was dead too
Carrie Bradshaw and I went through the same experience in real time, writes Lee Suckling.
Opinion: Why I'm quitting Botox
Spending months in lockdown had me rethinking fillers, writes Lee Suckling.
Opinion: How the Spice Girls created modern feminism
Celebrating all women started with the all-girl group in the 90s, writes Lee Suckling.
Lee Suckling: Why I got rid of my stuff
Opinion: I think many of us have become familiar with a new fear: claustrophobia.
What our pets can teach us about surviving lockdown
We can learn a thing or two about resilience from our pets, writes Lee Suckling.
Opinion: Why more queer people are vaccinated
LGBTQ+ people know there's only one way out of this pandemic, writes Lee Suckling.
Lee Suckling: Five things our dads didn't tell us
For Father's Day, Lee Suckling reflects on the lessons he wish he had learnt.
Lee Suckling: What's up with adult acne?
What are the causes of adult acne, and how do we normalise it so it's not so shameful?
Lee Suckling: Am I a geriatric millennial?
Thirty-five years old and science considers you "geriatric"? The connotations are cruel.
Lee Suckling: How to take a compliment
'People are terrible at taking compliments. I know I am,' writes Suckling.
Lee Suckling: The case for using cannabis instead of booze
Lee Suckling explains why he is voting yes in the upcoming referendum.
Lee Suckling: Why straight people need to learn to respect gay bars
Comment: 'Straight people are welcome in gay bars, but they have to behave.'
Why LGBTQ labels are more important than ever
COMMENT: Labels of queerness are part of who LGBTQ people are, writes Lee Suckling.
Lee Suckling: It's time to reclaim the word 'woke'
"The use of woke as a derogatory judgement shall not be commandeered," writes Suckling.
Mental health of those in quarantine under threat
Lee Suckling argues mental health professionals need to check up on people in isolation.
Lee Suckling: Stop denying our country is a racist place
Lee Suckling: Why have Asian Kiwis been left out of the race conversation?
Lee Suckling: Why New Zealand feels like the 90s again
New Zealand is looking back rather than moving forward, writes Lee Suckling.
Lee Suckling: What it's like to be in Zoom therapy
Suckling explains why telling your private thoughts to a laptop is a 'curious experience'.
Lee Suckling: The trick to curing SAD this winter
Lee Suckling's solution for seasonal affective disorder is to find the 'sunny spots'.
Is going blonde a cry for help?
"Going blonde is a reinvention; one often sought in times of crisis," writes Lee Suckling.
Lee Suckling: It's time to cancel influencer culture
Influencers who have tried to keep up their status look 'tone deaf', writes Lee Suckling.
How the wage subsidy has changed my opinion of welfare
I genuinely never thought I'd be on any kind of welfare, writes Lee Suckling.
Lee Suckling: Confronting my skinny white male privilege
"This is me showing up; this is my protest," writes Lee Suckling.
Six signs it's time to leave your marriage
There are some issues in a marriage that are insurmountable, writes Lee Suckling.
Why Millennials will be fine during the next downturn
"Millennials know no other way than economic and financial insecurity," writes Suckling.
Man alone: It's time for Zoom calls to die
A saviour in early lockdown days, Lee Suckling says it's time to 'leave meeting' for good.
Man alone: Freedoms we might never get back post-lockdown
COMMENT: I worry the world is changing for the worse, in ways we will never see reversed.
Man alone: Strangely pleasing change brought on by pandemic
Lee Suckling on a positive change in society sparked by coronavirus pandemic.
Man alone: 'I haven't spoken to a real person in 11 days'
Or maybe it's 12. Or 14? Lee Suckling on the realities of life in total isolation.
Man alone: 'Coronavirus isolation has put me on heat'
Remember when you could get on an app and find someone to have sex with?
The Sex Files: STI myths debunked
With health on everybody's minds, Lee Suckling debunks some of the common STI myths.
Lee Suckling: The planet is being given a chance to heal
OPINION: Lee Suckling explains why he thinks Mother Nature is breathing a sigh of relief.
Ten signs it's time to take a break from sex
Consciously not having sex doesn't sound appealing, but sometimes it's necessary.
The 'backwards' trick to achieving your goals
Have you been coming at your goals from entirely the wrong angle?
Lee Suckling: The secret to a positive body image
Are you 100 per cent body confident? asks Lee Suckling.
Lee Suckling: What menopause means for your sex life
Menopause doesn't mean the death of your libido but here's what to expect.
Why I'm wearing the most hated modern hairstyle for men
Lee Suckling tries to figure out where on earth all the top knot hatred is coming from.
What Australia's bush fires taught me about tūrangawaewae
Finally, after 34 years, this Kiwi understands what tūrangawaewae really means to him.
Why you should try audio porn
We usually think of porn as being visual - but audio porn is making a comeback.
Why a long-distance marriage is good for your sex life
The trend of living apart together, or LAT, is increasing in prevalence across the world.
Why 'sadfishing' is resulting in self-harm
Young users are turning to darker methods to elicit attention and sympathy online.
What new movie Bombshell reveals about sexual harassment
Lee Suckling: Do we really understand sexual harassment in all its forms?
How to tell if you're sharing too many selfies
Everyone knows you took 80 pictures to get that good one where your biceps are bulging.
The Sex Files: The truth about safe shower sex
A slippery business, Lee Suckling explains how to go about it safely.
Lee Suckling: How millennial lives will change in the 2020s
Warning: The new Roaring 20s will see all those tacky early-noughties looks reincarnated.
Lee Suckling: Why I sent my perfectly fine car to the wreckers
Eschewing the cash he could have made, Lee Suckling put his car in a crusher.
Lee Suckling: Sex with strangers and the etiquette of threesomes
These were the most read columns by Lee Suckling in 2019.
Lee Suckling: The real dangers of sex on the beach
It may seem like an appealing thing to do this summer, but be warned.
Lee Suckling: The body part men compare the most
And why you're wrong to assume it's below the belt.