Letter to doctor who advised abortion of girl with Down Syndrome

By Kat Abianac of ParkerMyles.com

Emmy mailing the letter to the doctor who advised her parents to abort her. Photo / ParkerMyles.com
Emmy mailing the letter to the doctor who advised her parents to abort her. Photo / ParkerMyles.com

Diagnosed with Down Syndrome before she was born, a US woman's doctor recommended she abort her unborn child.

But Courtney Baker and her husband, despite being told their quality of life would suffer, decided to proceed with the pregnancy and gave birth to little Emersyn Faith, known fondly as Emmy, 15 months ago.

Last month Courtney wrote a letter to the doctor and together with Emmy, mailed it to him.

This is their letter:


Courtney Baker and her daughter, who was born with Down syndrome, Emmy. Photo / ParkerMyles.com
Courtney Baker and her daughter, who was born with Down syndrome, Emmy. Photo / ParkerMyles.com

"Dear Doctor,

A friend recently told me of when her prenatal specialist would see her child during her sonograms, he would comment, 'He's perfect'. Once her son was born with Down syndrome, she visited that same doctor. He looked at her little boy and said, 'I told you.

He's perfect.'

Her story tore me apart. While I was so grateful for my friend's experience, it filled me with such sorrow because of what I should have had. I wish you would have been that doctor.

I came to you during the most difficult time in my life. I was terrified, anxious and in complete despair. I didn't know the truth yet about my baby, and that's what I desperately needed from you. But instead of support and encouragement, you suggested we terminate our child. I told you her name, and you asked us again if we understood how low our quality of life would be with a child with Down syndrome. You suggested we reconsider our decision to continue the pregnancy.

From that first visit, we dreaded our appointments. The most difficult time in my life was made nearly unbearable because you never told me the truth.

Emersyn was born with Down syndrome. Photo / ParkerMyles.com
Emersyn was born with Down syndrome. Photo / ParkerMyles.com

My child was perfect.

I'm not angry. I'm not bitter. I'm really just sad. I'm sad the tiny beating hearts you see every day don't fill you with a perpetual awe. I'm sad the intricate details and the miracle of those sweet little fingers and toes, lungs and eyes and ears don't always give you pause. I'm sad you were so very wrong to say a baby with Down syndrome would decrease our quality of life. And I'm heartbroken you might have said that to a mommy even today. But I'm mostly sad you'll never have the privilege of knowing my daughter, Emersyn.

Because, you see, Emersyn has not only added to our quality of life, she's touched the hearts of thousands. She's given us a purpose and a joy that is impossible to express. She's given us bigger smiles, more laughter and sweeter kisses than we've ever known. She's opened our eyes to true beauty and pure love.

So my prayer is that no other mommy will have to go through what I did. My prayer is that you, too, will now see true beauty and pure love with every sonogram.

And my prayer is when you see that next baby with Down syndrome lovingly tucked in her mother's womb, you will look at that mommy and see me then tell her the truth: 'Your child is perfect.'"

Emmy with her siblings Rhyan and Evynn. Photo / ParkerMyles.com
Emmy with her siblings Rhyan and Evynn. Photo / ParkerMyles.com

Courtney told ParkerMyles.com, "Emmy has two siblings. Rhyan is almost 15 and Evynn is 11. They are crazy about their sister!! They had been through so much at that point [when we received the diagnosis].

"We tried to be honest with them while keeping strong in our faith, but they knew about our pain and struggles with the specialist. When they heard that her diagnosis was confirmed at her birth, they were afraid.

"Emmy was taken from me immediately after birth because of low oxygen levels, so the girls met her when I did. It was such a surreal moment after all that time of fear and heartache. She was there and she was ours.

Emmy with her siblings Rhyan and Evynn. Photo / ParkerMyles.com
Emmy with her siblings Rhyan and Evynn. Photo / ParkerMyles.com

"The girls both said that as soon as they met her they fell in love. And it was obvious. A lot of healing happened at that moment. We never looked back to the fear and sadness, it's been onward in the smiles and joy. Rhyan is the calm, quiet, motherly refuge for Emmy. Evynn is the wild, fun, cracking up laughter for her. They are a perfect trio."

- Republished with permission from ParkerMyles.com.

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