My husband has no sense of style at all. If he had his way, he'd wear short shorts and a singlet top all the time. He's overweight and basically just doesn't care. It upsets me because I take pride in my appearance and would love him to, especially when we go out together. What can I do?
I can't imagine you're alone on this one.
If he has always been like this, you may be hard-pressed to change his ways - remember the old adage, "a leopard can't change its spots".
However, let's prove the pessimists wrong. Here are some things you might like to try:
*Talk to him. Tell him how you feel, how important it is to you.
*Buy him new clothes (make sure you can exchange them or get your money back, just in case he doesn't like them). Take them home as a surprise. Tell him how handsome he looks. Hopefully, he'll get compliments from friends and family.
*Or take him shopping.
Work with the store staff to put together different looks for him. He may listen to them.
*One step at a time - rush in and buy too many things or try to change him all at once and it could have a detrimental effect.
*Book him in for a haircut, if needed.
*In terms of weight loss, if this is an issue, are there things you can do together to help him, such as go for walks, cutting down on meal portions and alcohol, setting goals together and so on. It makes it so much easier doing it with someone else.
*Go on a date/s. Make an extra effort to celebrate his change. Acknowledge and thank him.
Remember, he's the man you married and love.
He's still the same person, irrespective of the clothes he wears.
Love him for that.