Look for the helpers.
When your children are confronted by frightening events, such as took place in Christchurch on Friday, you should direct them to look for those who are helping those affected, to see the positive in times of trouble.
I came across that piece early on in my parenting journey - and I have followed it with our children over the years.
Be it a terrorist act or a natural disaster, when my children have been confronted with the fragility of life, I have pointed to the police, the firefighters, the Red Cross workers, the humanitarian groups as evidence the world is still a good place.
But on Friday, as my daughter burst into tears on hearing of the attack, and her older brother struggled to tear his eyes away from the images rolling across the screen, I realised this advice is no longer sufficient.
It's no longer enough to sit back and look for the helpers.
We need to get up and BE the helpers.
We don't have to wear a uniform to help and we don't have to be there to help. We can help from our own towns, our own communities.
For children, one of the frightening things about an attack like this is a feeling of helplessness. How can THEY help, and how can they make a difference.
As adults, it is easy. We can go to our local blood donor centre and give blood or we can give money to one of the aid agencies involved in helping the victims. We can act, and do things to make a difference.
But we can teach our children how they can help too.
And it can be as simple as a smile.
Right now, somewhere near you, a Muslim woman is facing a hard choice - wear her hijab as a sign of her faith - or remove it for fear or being singled out as different.
A Sikh man can chose to wear his turban and be marked as "not one of us" or wear it as his faith asks.
For some people in our communities, the simple act of getting dressed is one fraught with a little bit of fear following Friday's events.
So when we see them, lets make sure we show kindness. Teach our children to smile at people, to recognise them as our neighbours and to see our similarities, not our differences.
Encourage your children to learn about the people around them, the different faiths, creeds and beliefs that together, make up a vibrant multi-cultural world.
And by learning, and smiling, we too can be the helpers our world so dearly needs right now.