A woman has revealed she is struggling to forgive her new-husband for getting drunk with his friends on their wedding day and passing out in the bridal suite.

The anonymous woman, from the UK, took to Mumsnet to reveal how upset she was over her big day and said she was struggling to forgive him.

The devastated bride said when she asked for help getting out of wedding dress, the groom looked at her "with disgust".

Other users rallied around her, telling her the groom was "selfish" and should apologise for his behaviour.

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The devastated bride took to Mumsnet to reveal how upset she was about the wedding day, and said she spent the night
The devastated bride took to Mumsnet to reveal how upset she was about the wedding day, and said she spent the night "in tears". Photo / Mumsnet

The anonymous woman revealed she had been married for six weeks, but was struggling with how drunk her husband had been at the wedding.

She continued that they had agreed that he wouldn't get really drunk as "he had a habit of getting carried away and doing something to upset me".

The bride explained: "During the night a couple of times, I said he shouldn't have any more but with everything going on I didn't see him much until it was time to leave and I then realised he'd clearly continued drinking.

"The taxi driver nearly refused to take him and he had to stick his head out the window for the whole journey.

"We then got to the hotel and he couldn't remember how to get to our room (he checked in earlier so I hadn't been)."

She continued: "I had to struggle with millions of buttons on my dress whilst he passed out on the bed.

"What was worse was the way he looked at me when I said I needed him to help, realistically I know it was the effort of the dress that he was thinking of but the look of disgust on his face at helping me won't leave my mind."

She explained that apart from the photographs, her husband had "vanished for ages" with his friends.

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She said: "I've spoken to him but am really struggling to forgive. My worry is that if he can't stick to something which was important for me on our wedding how likely is he to do it another time?"

She added: "I spent my wedding night in tears on the sofa in our hotel room. I know he can't change anything but I'm struggling with this being the final memories of our wedding day."

"The only thing that mattered to me was us spending the day together and I feel that for him the most important thing was getting drunk with his friends."

Other users rallied around the devastated bride, with some calling him "selfish" and suggesting the groom apoligise.

One posted: "Nothing less attractive than a man who doesn't know when he's had enough to drink. Don't enable this behaviour from him ever again. If he's so drunk he needs to be dealt with like a toddler, walk away. Set your level of acceptable and stick to it for the sake of your sanity."

Users commented on her husband's behaviour. Photo / Mumsnet
Users commented on her husband's behaviour. Photo / Mumsnet
People sympathised with the newly wed. Photo / Mumsnet
People sympathised with the newly wed. Photo / Mumsnet
Users rallied around the devastated bride. Photo / Mumsnet
Users rallied around the devastated bride. Photo / Mumsnet
Several people suggested the groom had acted selfishly. Photo / Mumsnet
Several people suggested the groom had acted selfishly. Photo / Mumsnet

"I really feel for you. He acted selfishly in my opinion," one commented. "He does sound immature, please forgive me if I am wrong. I can understand him wanting to enjoy the day and have a few drinks but sounds like he went over the top! I hope in time you can look back on your memories fondly of your wedding day."

One posted: "Poor you. Not surprised you are dwelling on it, sounds awful. Have you been together a long time, as he sounds like he completely takes you for granted and saw the wedding as a party with his mates rather than a celebration of the two of you."

Another commented: "I really feel for you. The bit about how you hardly saw each other except for the photos is so sad."

Another added: "I know countless happy marriages which have started with a very, very drunk groom. The point is that he needs to apologise and he needs to know what he's done wrong."