Often when a couple have been in a relationship for a number of years or weeks their sex lives can become routine and rather mundane. The excitement of the one-night stand has been replaced by a "let's-just-get-this-over- and-done-with" kind of mentality, with the man often taking an "all-stocks-must-go clearance sale" kind of approach to the lovemaking.

Like putting on a comfy pair of flippers, you have come to know exactly what to expect from your partner, and it's this familiarity and false sense of "comfort" that can often lead to a breakdown in sexual communication.

To avoid having your sex lives morphing into something as boring and repetitive as incessant reality TV show re-caps, you must develop your communication skills and find new ways to enhance your sexual relationship and personal performance. In a nutshell, you must learn to make love all over again in new exciting ways. The catch, however, is that there is a fine line between being an exciting experimental lover and a plain sicko.

Male versus female sexual needs or the amount of sex one needs can vary from person to person but a good rule of thumb is that most women prefer to have sex on average twice every three days, while most men would like to enjoy sex twice every three hours.

These are merely rough estimates as obviously many men would prefer to have more sex than that but the shackles of our 9 to 5 consumerist society make that a little impractical.

So what can you do to address the imbalance in men and women's desire to have sex?

The simplest approach is for women to agree to have sex more often. They are probably never ever going to be able to satisfy man's quench for sex entirely but a good rule of thumb is that two or three times a day is probably reasonable for an average-looking couple.

More attractive couples might feel the need to have sex a little more but it is something that can only really be gauged by the couple themselves.

So once you have agreed to have sex more often as a couple, how do you then keep it from getting boring and stale?

The answer is simple, PASTA! Pasta is relatively cheap and large pots of it can be cooked relatively quickly.

As soon as it has been cooked until al dente, it is ready to be introduced into your sex life.

While naked, perhaps in a state of semi arousal, drain the excess water from the large pots of pasta and then douse your naked lover in the steaming pasta.