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Dita De Boni: Our unruly families

By Dita De Boni
9:08 AM Monday Dec 12, 2011
In any given community, there will be a handful of families that cause the majority of trouble, according to an ex-crime reporter.
Photo / Thinkstock

In any given community, there will be a handful of families that cause the majority of trouble, according to an ex-crime reporter. Photo / Thinkstock

An ex-crime reporter once told me that police had told her that in any given community, there will be a handful of families that cause the majority of trouble - and cost to the taxpayer.

Just this weekend, reading the Herald on Sunday, proved just how true this observation is. Consider the case of Maine Annabella Ngati and her partner Teusila Fa'aisila, who managed to have a child while in prison for the manslaughter of their three-year-old son, who they beat with a variety of instruments including a bat, and whose blood was found throughout their house, including on the ceiling.

Ngati is in line for counseling on Corrections' dime, and her large brood of children is in care, being monitored by the state. There is nothing to stop this woman having more children.

There was also the case of Katrina Rose Briggs, who is accused of defrauding the IRD to the tune of $1.16 million with a group of others. She is also the mother of a child murdered 11 years ago by her partner Landles Ropiha, who threw her 11 month old against a hard surface, smashing his skull.

Then there is Jamie Ginns, a man with a very long criminal record and well known to Tokoroa police and surrounds, who shot himself and his partner - Matakapua Glassie, herself a member of family now infamous in the annals of crime - leaving her critically injured.

That doesn't mean that every case of child abuse involves families that have gone off the rails. One story in the paper concerns the death of Terepo Taura-Griffiths. The full, sickening facts of this case are yet to come to light. But let us hope they were not as ominous - for what it is worth - as the lead up to the death of two-year-old James Joseph Ruhe Lawrence - a boy who CFYS were onto in some way - but who had one his internal organs split in half in November, before they could get to him.

Where social services, the police and many others are involved with a family, it doesn't seem to prevent a big tragedy occurring - even when the family is known to be a wellspring of trouble. And it's not a problem unique to New Zealand. In Britain, according to the Daily Mail, research has shown that across that country, there are 120,000 families costing the taxpayer 9 billion pounds each year in child care, social support, and tackling the crime these family members take part in.

British police have unofficially calculated that it would cost less to have a police officer stationed in each of the 120,000 family homes than forking out for subsequent state intervention. At the moment, well over half the young men from these families end up in the clink themselves, at a huge cost to victims, society and the families themselves.
British PM David Cameron, who has recently enraged all of Europe by refusing to sign a pact to save the Euro, is expected to reveal new sanctions against these 'unruly' families soon - including cutting benefits to those that persistently fail to send their children to school.

The PM has also promised better information sharing between agencies as a way of simplifying how these families are dealt with by the state. As a Tory Government voted in to counteract years of Labour rule, it will be interesting to see just how popular these measures are with the general public.

Will anything similar happen here? Cameron's doppelganger Key, voted in again and now with an even stronger mandate to fulfil a centre-right wishlist, might be looking for ideas on how to get tough on crime.

An interesting first point of departure might be to investigate whether in fact we really do have the kinds of 'unruly' families that bleed our agencies dry - and then if we do, whether we can be a little bit more proactive as a community about preventing major calamities long - perhaps even generations - before they happen.

- HERALD ONLINE

By Dita De Boni
Sick to death of the death of our babies (Auckland Region) | 01:52PM Monday, 12 Dec 2011
20+yrs ago, a district nurse could run around every 3mths and give mothers who were known to social services as incapable of raising children in a safe environment, the 'depo' injection and so prevent some of the tragedies that seem so prevalent today.

Fast forward to now, these children are being born (and all children are a blessing), into dysfunctional, violent and ignorant families. Cyfs are often at a loss of what to do, having their hands tied by the courts who require that wherever possible (read: unless everyone else is dead or overtly criminal), children should be placed within the family.

This does nothing to address the fact that in general, these are the same whanau who have created and/or enabled the dysfunction in the first instance, and could be generations deep in many cases.

My point is that the 'mother' and I use the term loosely, can then go on to procreate again and again, pick inappropriate partners for step fathers and find their children suffering once again. When is it going to stop? harsher penalties are the ambulance at the bottom of the cliff. Proactive engagement of authorities by family and neighbours is what will save our babies!
West Is Best (New Zealand) | 10:10AM Tuesday, 13 Dec 2011
It saddens me when I hear about babies been abused/killed by family members or their partners. There are so many couples that can't have children and yet for some reason children are born into abusive relationships again and again. What has become of our country, most days there is another reported death in our communities of a precious child who we as parents are suppose to love, protect and care for.
cassarena (Nelson Region) | 10:10AM Tuesday, 13 Dec 2011
If dysfunction is 'normal' in a potential parent's environment, then it's going to take proactive engagement, education and support to redefine their thinking, actions and attitudes. We can't wait for reports of abuse before intervening.

Nobody is going to self-select for this kind of intervention and support, so the community is going to have to get a lot more creative, caring and nosey about the neighbours to improve the situation.

Concern, indignation and a 'lock them up' attitude are not actually going to help the risk assessment and decision making processes of the young mother with a colicky baby when her boyfriend decidess to move in.
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