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Scott Kara: Oh s#@!, what did she say?

By Scott Kara @scottkara
11:35 AM Wednesday Nov 30, 2011
Deal with littlies letting rip before the grandparents come around. Photo / Thinkstock

Deal with littlies letting rip before the grandparents come around. Photo / Thinkstock

I knew it was my fault as soon as my wife told me what our little girl had said during the day. I admit it, I am to blame for my almost four-year-old Mia letting rip with the old "F***ing hell" and the slightly less cringe inducing "bloody hell".

Since that shameful day I've also heard her muttering both phrases when something doesn't go her way, or something is frustrating her. Which is exactly what I do when some idiot pulls out in front of me in the car, or I trip over, or I'm running late and rushing to get out the door.

Thankfully it's not a tirade of swear words pouring forth willy-nilly from Mia's mouth. Yet, at least.

When I asked her where she heard those words she blamed a friend of hers. But I know it's my influence because she is - mostly - a sweet and lovely little girl.

While I'm not proud to admit it - although not exactly ashamed either - I am a swearer. I'm a champion at it at times. But I know when to put a sock in my potty mouth. I'm not rude and know there is a time and place for cussing. And it's not like I swear in front of the kids, it's just those small, under-the-breathe utterances that slip out sometimes - and then old big ears picks up on it.

Swearing is not something I learned off my parents. I was scared pooless to let a swear word drop at home, especially in front of my mum. It wasn't tolerated.

Yeah, we swore at school, but come university time and moving out of home it became part of the lingo. And you have to admit, it creates great punch in a passionate sentence. Which is probably why kids Mia's age are magnets for swear words. And most kids do it.

It's hard not to laugh. But you can't. You have to deal with it, or face the embarrassment of them doing it in public. Or worse, when the grandparents are around.

Initially we ignored it, because that's what they say to do isn't it? But the swearing came back.

So we've found pulling her up about it and talking briefly but seriously about not saying those sorts of words and it seems to be getting through.

Now though the really hard part begins. I have to stop myself from swearing because I can't very well give myself a good firm talking to - and I certainly don't want to have to wash my mouth out with soap.

By Scott Kara @scottkara
A.S (Mt Roskill) | 04:09PM Wednesday, 30 Nov 2011
I am in the same boat, except worse, I swear a LOT and round the house as well, since it's a way to me to express my frustration, but I don't swear AT people. It's a nasty habit, but also one I am not entirely sure I can or want to kick completely. My Mother swore around us, but God help us if we swore, and that worked ok for that household. I'd like to hold myself to a higher standard, but ultimately there is a lot of stress in my life and this helps :) It's not something I want my Son to learn to do though!
YouKNOWItsTheTruth (New Zealand) | 04:09PM Wednesday, 30 Nov 2011
My two-year-old neice is hilarious when she yells out 'bloody hell' with a huge, big smile on her face. Grandmad will say it once, usually in a fit of road-rage, and my little niece goes into parrot mode. Funny that she doesn't do it with most other words.
Cunning_Stunt (Howick) | 04:09PM Wednesday, 30 Nov 2011
Good on you.
Most parents tend to find other reasons in a childs life to blame, as opposed to looking at themselves and realising that they infact, are the problem.
It is, however, increadibly natural for a child that young to occasionally swear. Its in their mentality to be a tape-recorder of sorts, repeating what they think is 'normal'.
In terms of your want to curb the language inwhich you use around your daughter, I suggest a swear jar. Atleast this way, you can show her that there are certain consequences.
Lead by example, even if that means you have to get in trouble yourself once in awhile.
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