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Not so crazy after all

By Dita De Boni
8:37 AM Friday Mar 12, 2010
Photo / Alan Gibson

Photo / Alan Gibson

Today, a 19-year-old Taupo man was jailed for throwing a three month old baby, who wouldn't stop crying, onto the floor, causing life-threatening head injuries. (See article here).

Only the quick actions of medical professionals saved this child's life, although one has to wonder what kind of life the quick-thinking professionals have saved this child for.

Because - naturally - the child was shown to have two serious previous injuries that had not healed. Yes, at three months old, the child had already amassed three serious injuries, two of those to the head and a torn upper lip that had not healed.

Worst of all, and again, far from surprising, is that the father of this poor unfortunate child, and the child's mother, have two previous children, both of whom are in care.

It is stories like this - and they are so frequent as to be almost wallpaperish by now - that should surely make us see the suggestion to offer monetary incentives to convicted child abusers to become sterilised for what it is - common sense.

I am aware that David Garrett resiled from his position, but to my mind it's a shame. Because the answers to why society continues to tolerate the most heinous, incompetent and fatal parenting need some different answers than the ones we have been coming up with in the past twenty years.

I am not a "far-right" thinker. I don't believe in Eugenics, I don't think it would be possible to force anyone to be sterilised, and I don't think one can be flippant about this kind of thing. And yet, I fail to see why anyone can be up in arms about the state stepping in to persuade known abusers not to reproduce.

The state has the right, because the state is precisely the body left to pick up the pieces when abusers go on to reproduce again, and again, and again. And by the state, I mean all of us.

The man who threw the 3-month-old on to the ground was 19 years old. That he had managed to father three children before the age of 20 is cruel in itself; there seems no way to ensure this man will not go on to repeat this pattern again, and again, and again. And his (ex) partner? No doubt on her way to still more children.

There is one small window of redemption open to people who find themselves repeating the pattern of deprivation, neglect and violence on their own children that was visited on them as children. That is to stop inflicting children on society who have no hope of having happy home lives. If they are not willing to do this, but might be swayed by the lure of $5000, why the hell not try it?

$5000 is a paltry sum compared to the bill society foots for every child brought into a home where there is known violence and neglect.

And let's not forget that to spare a child that fate is the most humane action of them all.

By Dita De Boni
UrbanMum (New Zealand) | 12:04PM Friday, 12 Mar 2010
I agree with what you are saying. Being a parent of two young children myself I have first hand experience of how diffciult and trying crying yougies can be but it is absolutely unacceptable to treat children of any age with this level of abuse.

I am no left-winger either, but when it comes to the welfare of children who are abused in this manner, the state must take a hard line against repeat offenders like this. Someone who has shown such inability to cope with parenting should not be allowed to father anymore children.

And women who make children with such unsuitable potential fathers should be given birth control support and education on parenting and the basics of finding responsible mates.
tigereye (Onehunga) | 12:04PM Friday, 12 Mar 2010
I think its not a bad idea, if you abuse or kill your pet you are not allowed another one, makes our child look less important and un cared about if people can kill and abuse kids then go one to have more and nothing is done about it.

These kids cost all of us tax payer money and more so if they are abused and live but with great health problems. Stopping it the soucre maybe the answer as it at least make people think and go get some protection to avid getting pregant.

With the world population heading out of contorl its only a matter of time till these one pre child etc are put to us all and mesures taken to provent more kids and it won't be free of choice.
Vicky () | 12:04PM Friday, 12 Mar 2010
For every child born, parents get benefits, is that right? well, what do you think some parents are doing?
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