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Breeding trouble

By Dita De Boni
8:24 AM Monday Oct 6, 2008
Prams lined up in Aotea Square in 2001 to signify the need for 14 weeks paid parental leave. Photo / Martin Sykes

Prams lined up in Aotea Square in 2001 to signify the need for 14 weeks paid parental leave. Photo / Martin Sykes

For the kind of story that makes you think society is going to hell in a hand basket, check out news out of Australia today.

Apparently charges cannot be laid against a seven-year-old boy who broke into a zoo in Alice Springs and fed several live animals to a crocodile while bashing others to death with a rock.

The boy killed 13 animals in all. The zoo is looking to charge his parents. But charge them with what exactly? Like New Zealand, it seems unlikely that anything in law can bring errant parents to heel.

It seems to be beyond argument that the boy's parents are errant. What the heck is a seven year old boy doing marauding around without supervision? Even if he slipped out of the home unnoticed, what kind of mental state must he be in to kill so many animals with what security camera footage showed to be a "blank expression" on his face?

Most frightening of all is what will happen to this boy as he enters adulthood and who will be left to pick up the tab, whether in dollars, or more likely, in pain, as he inflicts his entrenched psychopathy on partners, children and society at large.

It is, of course, the extreme end of the spectrum and perhaps there is hope if enough resourcing is thrown at this particular problem child. But interestingly, it comes at the end of a week where an Australian child health expert has said some 20 per cent of Australian parents are unfit to raise children because they lack the means or life skills.

Professor Fiona Stanley is an adviser to Kevin Rudd and a former Australian of the Year, and she's also founded the Institute for Child Health Research.

Prof Stanley says one in five Australian parents are financially and socially ill-equipped for child rearing. Mental illness, obesity, asthma and substance abuse are the biggest health risks she's identified, but she also says many, many parents are not devoting enough time to their children because of job commitments.

"There have been incredible changes in the workplace, which might have been good for people's income, but are not good for parenting", she has said.

The Australian Government's paid parental leave policies, which are minimal in law, come in for particular criticism from the Institute for Child Health Research.

But before we pat ourselves on the back, we should remember that even though New Zealand women are paid leave for 14 weeks, it actually works out to about roughly the same as Australian women receive in a lump sum when they have a child.

Furthermore, would any amount of paid parental leave stop a large scale mass exodus of parents of very young children going back to work? Is it actually the problem?

We can be sure that we have the same proportion of unfit parents in this country, if not, perhaps, more. But unfortunately it's unlikely anyone in a position of influence in this country would ever say anything as bold, and as stark, as Prof Stanley has told the Aussies this week.

Pictured above: Prams lined up in Aotea Square in 2001 to signify the need for 14 weeks paid parental leave. Photo / Martin Sykes

By Dita De Boni
Auckland Kitty (Auckland Central) | 08:49AM Monday, 06 Oct 2008
Part of the problem may be the stigma attached to stay-at-home parents. I certainly would want either myself of my husband to be at home looking after the kid(s) when I have them; I wouldn't want to put them into daycare as soon as possible so I could go back to work. That just seems wrong to me.
Midwife (Whanganui) | 10:16AM Monday, 06 Oct 2008
Unbelievably we are going down this road again, when studies have repeatedly shown it is not whether parents work that affects children, it is simply bad parenting. Good daycare is miles better than being at home with bad parents. I'm not saying that all parents that work are fantastic, but I see every day, unfortunately particularly women, at home with small children that are ill equipped to care for them. Concentrate on preparing young people better for parenting, without the emphasis on one parent not being in paid employment. From someone who has experienced both ends of the spectrum, as un-PC as it may sound, some of us are better parents while working, even in full time employment.
KCP (Auckland Central) | 10:49AM Monday, 06 Oct 2008
Yes, there is stigma attached to being a stay at home parent, Auckland Kitty, but I can reassure you that not all working mothers rush back to work with horns blazing! A lot do it from necessity. We also have those people out there that scream blue murder about the nanny state and their taxes being used to look after those parents who do choose to put the social welfare of their family above their own needs. Shame on them! It's an unfortunate truth that in the society we live in today it is almost impossible to survive on one measly income. And it is also sad that a lot of people forget the reasons why parents have to rush back to work after the birth of their children.
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